THE STATE OF MARITAL INTERACTION IN FAMILIES WITH A DYSFUNCTION OF FAMILY LIFE DUE TO ADULTERY

  • S. S. Bondar Ukrainian State Employment Service Training Institute
Keywords: adultery, family interaction, family life and functioning, family crisis and conflict

Abstract

The article is devoted to the problem of marital interaction in families with a dysfunction of family life due to adultery. The study was conducted among 180 couples in the “crisis age of marriage” with and without adultery in the family history. According to the results of the study using the approach of the threecomponent model of love by R. Sternberg it was revealed that in couples with adultery there is a disruption of intensity and balance in the relationship, where passion and intimacy were not considered to be the cause of commitment. The desires and interests of a couple often lack commonalities. In couples where passion and intimacy contributed to a high degree of commitment, they became deterrent to the act of adultery. In pairs with an adultery a discrepancy between expectations and difficulties in meeting the needs of a partner were revealed. However, where there was a persistence of trust and “non-destructive” transgressions in the family, the couple united around the issue of adultery. On the contrary, when the couple were overwhelmed with the stress of adultery, it resulted in theaggravation of the problems of family dysfunction, estrangement and frustration. The analysis of communication in a family with the method of “Diagnosis of communication in the family” by Alyoshin found more profound dysfunction in family functioning in couples with adultery with more experience of family life, the fact of adultery is considered to be “expected” and “knowingly committed”. The test of K. Thomas’s behavior revealed the underlying cause of conflict and crisis situations, where the adultery “embodied” the dysfunction of relationships and family crisis (discrepancy in verbal and nonverbal communication, manipulation of the partner, blocking and distortion of the expression of feelings). The following types of conflicts in couples were identified : “avoidance”, with the readiness to “sacrifice” one’s own interests and the interests of partner; “rivalry” and “conforming” where one “wins” and the other “loses”; “compromise”, where both lose, not willing to “sacrifice” their own interests; “cooperation”, where both partners win without having to “sacrifice” their own interests. It has been established that there is reduction of dysfunctional behaviors in conflict (“rivalry”, “avoidance”) in couples with more experience of family life. In turn, “adaptation” increase with the increase of family life experience, “compromise” is relatively stable, and “cooperation” tends to increase.

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Published
2020-11-05